Picture this.
There is child who has never stayed away from its mother. But after certain age, he is made to leave the city to pursue further education, as time may demand.
The child loves the mother infinitely. The mother’s love for a child is considerably more than the love of the child for its mother.
An army officer, who stays away from home, seldom visits his wife and children because of his posting at a distant land. He loves his wife. He misses his children. But situations do not permit him to be with his family all the time.
A daughter, who loves her parents dearly, leaves everything behind for a new set of parents (-in -law) and husband.
A couple, in love, immensely so, are separated by distances because of various reasons. They cannot see each other often, they cannot communicate regularly until they get married and they can neither convey their love for each other.
A group of friends – bonded by care, love and affection are separated owing to the different paths on which they are put but the manager called God.
There may be an absence of people in life. You may not have your loved ones around always. Their absence may make you miss them at times.
But what is there that seems missing? The person or the emotion?
Does Absence of love or that of the lover hurt more?
If Love is absent, then there is no meaning to the relationship. If the lover is absent, Love becomes stronger.
I feel , the emotion of love can never fade. The person’s absence may hurt , but the emotion of love can never. So the emotion needs to be stronger than the other person whom you are loving. That makes it easy to love without having expectations.
That’s why sometimes, beautiful quotes such as this make a lot of sense:
“Absence makes the heart grow fonder.”
For me, Love is a noun first, then a verb. :)
What hurts more? Absence of Love or Lover?
Peter Answers
Curiosity kills the cat, they say. Since morning everyone i know, around me, has been trying to know what's in store for them. The tarot reading provided by Peter is quite true and astonishingly so, it keeps many people wondering that how can it be so accurate.The excitement for me, did not last very long, because I found out how it worked.
For the lesser fortunate ones, who did not realise that this is some kinda trick, spent hours wondering about it's veracity and functioanlity. I still see them writing petitions to Peter. Poor people !!
How did Peter change lives?
- Shawn has been looking for a girl named Shreya because Peter answered that Shreya would be her next girlfriend's name. The guy, I am sure, is desperate and the search never-ending.
-Laila has resigned from her current job, because Peter answered that she will be thrown out of her current organisation.
-Nihal is planning to spy on his wife because Peter answered that his wife is dating someone else.
Ignorance, sometimes, isn't bliss.
Silly junta. I pity them. hhmph...
Please Suggest
Ok, now suppose, you have this very very close friend, a girl who has been with you since ages. You’ve lived the teenage part of your life together, sharing all secrets, discussing crushes, stalking smart guys, visiting exhibitions, talking about dreams and ambitions, shopping and eating till you collapse, watching the restricted stuff ;) , and exploring nuances of life together.
And then you have another close and dear friend, a boy, with whom you’ve again, explored golden days of college life – staying in different cities though. You’ve shared all good and bad times, discussed views about politics, racism, reservation, what girls like, what they don’t, what boys like, what they don’t, how would your ideal partner be, what would you do if you find ‘the one’. You've talked about the crushes you had, all the times when you thought we were in love ( not with each other), your first kiss (again not with each other :P), your first job, aspirations and everything under the sun.
Both of them are your close friends. And one fine day, you find out that this boy-friend of yours is dating that girl-friend of yours. He keeps asking you about how she is, what is she good at? Etc.
And on another finer day, you call your girl-friend up and talk to her expecting her to tell you about all the exciting things going on in her life. And she tells you NOTHING about it.
You again call her and you keep doing that for, say, 20 times, and still you get to know nothing about it from your girl-friend.
The game gets interesting. But you get equally impatient. You are happy for your girl-friend becaue you think she could have got no one better vice-versa for the guy.
But the silence or reluctance, whateva, is supposedly killing you.
What do you do?
Wait?
Well, I did that.. and I am still doing it!
Stop talking to her?
No I can’t! She’s fun yaa!
Then what do I do????
Please suggest!!
Thanks, but no Thanks for your advice.
Once you are past the age of pursuing education, people expect you to do things which the entire clan of dumbheads is doing. You go to a social gathering and you are hit by questions like “What are you doing these days?”. You candidly answer, “I am training students and working as an HR manager.” Then you get counsels like, “Why don’t you apply for the civil services, the government facilities are so good.” “Why don’t you go for an MBA in HR, that will help you in adding value to your job..” “You should stick to technology; the market is bouncing back now.” “Why don’t you get married and then decide what job you want to take up.” The last but one question is something that seems inevitable after a certain age. Once you are in age bracket of 22-28, you realize that the society is more worried than you, or your parents. There is a lot of social pressure and you have to answer them by either letting go your aims or settling for a partner irrespective of your mental preparedness, or face the wrath of the people.
There are a very few people who would come up to and say, “You are doing a great job. Wish you all the luck and success.” I have been waiting to hear that. But there has been a negative trend and all have decided to follow that path. I wonder how they would feel if one day their children get to hear all this shit.
There are some people whom I know, who have given up everything just to experience struggle. To go through tough times in order to realize what is their real strength; whether it is technology, people skills, management, or teaching. But when there is a hiatus accompanied so much pressure and nitpicks, one really is scared to let go the success factor and pursue struggle.
I totally respect those who have let gone their last name “Success” which refused to leave the identity and have taken up what they always wanted to pursue. A little struggle convoyed with a lot of support makes the journey worth passing through.
Some people really pull my spirits down. I only wish they get an iota of what they have been giving us!
Looking within
What age is it when you grow up? They keep asking me... Why don't you grow up? You have all degrees and qualification but you lack the maturity. How will you train your kids to become good individuals if you lack maturity yourself? The alibis that i have been giving since ages have been ignored, always.
There was a nice movie where the actor adopts a kid to prove that he can responsible too. His girlfriend never beleives that they were good enough to get married because she always thought that her boyfriend did not know what resposibilities were. In the process to make his girlfriend realise that he isn't a blacksheep, he adopts a kid and later goes on to lose his girfriend which was obviously bound to happen. But in the process of realising his potential of being responsible and mature he realises that it is very necessary for the kids to learn certain things all by themselves. He also goes to the limit of letting the kid decide a name of his own and the kid names himself -Frankenstein.
But i have realised that i am under a lot of pressure and i keep getting directions at every moment in my life. Is it too much dependence on parents, my inability to make decisions, lack of freedom or am i simply bound by the values and morals of being obedient all the time. Well, i am not obedient all the time. My master says that disagreeing is different from disobeying or disrespecting. But when the youngsters, today, put forth their views, they are said to be the disobedient, useless, hopeless generation with no morals.
I beg to differ! There has to be some point of time when you have to let go the kid and let it grow all by himself. That is when you will see him grow in true terms. Some people prefer being children all their lives, carefree and full of enthusiasm. In the entire process of introspection you tend to lose your individuality. You can't make everyone happy, even if they are you elders back home. Because what you are cannot be changed but what and how you do things in certain situation can change with time.
The generation gap needs attention, otherwise this will go on and the expectations of our elders and the aspirations of the youngsters won't be ever aligned.
Pig Fear
The main problem that a man faces is insecurity. Either he is afraid of losing his loved ones, or afraid of losing his job, or insecure about his funds in stock market or simply insecure that he might catch swine flu if he travels :D.
I was supposed to have some relatives from USA next month. But sadly, they cancelled their plans, obviously because of swine flu.
There's a little Chap in my apartment who asked me the other day, "Where did swine Flu come from?"
And i assumed and said that it was probably from countries where Pork was used as a major form of meat. United States of America is one of the Countries where Pork i.e. the Pig meat is widely used.
Globalisation, privatisation started in the west, then came to India and stayed here. The trend of following valentine's day, friendship's day started in the west, came to India and stayed here. The Swine flu which started there, came to India is probably going to stay here for sometime. Why are we able to breed such negative things for so long? The positives, obviously are supposed to survive.
The insecurity factor leads you devoid of so many things which you may regret later on.
Nonetheless, these are small things which makes us what we are - Human Beings...
Bloody Racism
What if I hit you hard because you are darker than me? What if I abuse you because you are more intelligent than me? The rhapsody that engulfs my arena, after making you realise that you are a lesser creed and a threat to my existence, makes me feel so good. You don’t deserve to be here because you have an edge over many things. You don’t deserve to enjoy any rights for self development and that of the society. You cannot intrude and take my job from me. I know I can’t do it as good as you do it…. But it’s my job after all. I am less talented than you are, that is why I want you out of my domain. You are progressing and helping others progress too, that’s the reason why I can’t stand you. You are a developing economy and I ask you to go back to your nation and think about your welfare, not ours. I am a racist and rightly so, I can’t tolerate the fact that you are doing better than me.
Paint your self white and then come to my country… until then stay in your limits and go back…
This was an insight into the mind of a racist who believes not in humanity, who is scared because he doubts his abilities, who is afraid of domination- which is inevitable.
The country culture differs…. And I am proud to say that ours is the best, where guests are treated like God.
I feel sorry for the people who have belittled the honour of the countries they belong to by mistreating the Indians.
I feel very sorry….